I think it's worth remembering that being the feeder does not equal being the "dominant" one.
It's ok to be nervous or to ask how he would like it done.
The feedee can be the confident or directional one if that's how you both feel you'd like to work it.
So you can almost be a coy, shy, sweet feeder by asking what he'd like to eat next and how much, stroking his hair or his tummy while he eats it, offering to get more, gently coaxing him to eat/drink another. Feel free to push it slightly when he first says no, he's full (whether by use of words or by spoon/hand-feeding him). Try telling him how excited you are that he'll be so full and getting so fat. That's pretty persuasive
I struggled with this concept to start with and then realised I can't pretend to be someone I'm not - when it comes to sexy stuff (including feederism) I'm just happier following than leading. But that doesn't mean I can't be a feeder. I'm just a rather girly one.
I don't even see why you can't be dorky and awkward whilst he's tied with his hands behind a chair and you sweetly feed him donuts...
(Of course, if the dynamic he prefers is to be dominated and have you make all the decisions then maybe it's not going to work as well... you could try acting confident but you're not going to enjoy it as much if you're not really feeling it. Or maybe if you're generally a confident person it's just because it's the unknown that you're feeling dorky. Maybe practice makes perfect?)
Can I recommend these as background reading? Molly Ren's "Distention" and "Gluttony and Lust" are about her feeding her guy/playmate Deep End. They're awesome:
molly-ren.tumblr.com/tagged/true+stories/page/6
Let us know how it goes!
It's ok to be nervous or to ask how he would like it done.
The feedee can be the confident or directional one if that's how you both feel you'd like to work it.
So you can almost be a coy, shy, sweet feeder by asking what he'd like to eat next and how much, stroking his hair or his tummy while he eats it, offering to get more, gently coaxing him to eat/drink another. Feel free to push it slightly when he first says no, he's full (whether by use of words or by spoon/hand-feeding him). Try telling him how excited you are that he'll be so full and getting so fat. That's pretty persuasive
I struggled with this concept to start with and then realised I can't pretend to be someone I'm not - when it comes to sexy stuff (including feederism) I'm just happier following than leading. But that doesn't mean I can't be a feeder. I'm just a rather girly one.
I don't even see why you can't be dorky and awkward whilst he's tied with his hands behind a chair and you sweetly feed him donuts...
(Of course, if the dynamic he prefers is to be dominated and have you make all the decisions then maybe it's not going to work as well... you could try acting confident but you're not going to enjoy it as much if you're not really feeling it. Or maybe if you're generally a confident person it's just because it's the unknown that you're feeling dorky. Maybe practice makes perfect?)
Can I recommend these as background reading? Molly Ren's "Distention" and "Gluttony and Lust" are about her feeding her guy/playmate Deep End. They're awesome:
molly-ren.tumblr.com/tagged/true+stories/page/6
Let us know how it goes!
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